Managing Habits: How to Overcome bad habits 

For a long period of time, I know what's wrong with me and what are those habits, that are killing me inside, physically and mentally, and you know both aspects of your life is irreplaceable, and you just can't walk off from those things.

                Even if you manage to have some control over it later, the past and the guilt is always hovering over you especially guilt, every time, maybe for the rest of your life.

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It is really hard to control your habits and get over it within time, These two question that I have mentioned is the real reason why we are suffering for a long time, or why we might suffer more if we don't do anything right now in order to end it.

Now the big question is how can we stop it, and how can we move on, after having a terrible experience of failure, and being in the constant companion of unhappiness and eventually losing our self-respect, After a while, People start thinking that maybe they don't deserve happiness and they don't deserve a good life. Once you are convinced that you don't deserve any of those good things in your life. Your growing curve starts declining and you became all dizzy. 
I felt the same way, and I, get out of it, It's just a matter of time and if I can do it I am sure you can too, just follow these simple points and start practicing it daily.

Before I start mentioning the points, I want you to do something before following the given points, and that is to forgive yourself and forgive others, I am sure you can do this, You are more than capable of forgiveness. After this forgiving part when you are all empty, No grudges, and no hard feelings for anyone, You can go to the first point.

The First Point

You are once a very happy person and you have changed, and the truth is you are never going to change back to the person you are once(the innocent one), but trust me you can turn yourself into a better person, far better person than you are once.

Nothing is permanent, not this world nor your problems, Things will change as change is the law of nature.

And the Second Point

When you constantly remind yourself of the bad habits that you don't want to do, In a way you are still reminding yourself of the bad habits, In spite of doing this you can remind yourself of the good habits that you want in your life, It's ok if you get fail in doing so, in the starting, just remind yourself of the good habits you want in your life. Don't bash yourself with the questions like why I did it again? I failed again, just ignore those question and work for that good habit, Always maintain this circle, soon those unwanted things will get out of it. 

Think about what you want in your life instead of what you don't 

Fighting Depression: How these three points changed me and my life

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Depression is something I struggled with for a long time. The only thing that kept me going during those dark times was a simple mantra: “This too shall pass.”

I want to share three key points that helped me overcome depression. These steps took a toll on me, and while I lost valuable time, I hope my experience will help you recover faster.

1. Overcome the Habit of Blaming Yourself and Others

When I was depressed, I constantly blamed others for my situation, and then turned that blame inward. I was confused, irritated, and frustrated by my own habits. I felt out of control and started bottling up all my emotions, which only made things worse.

Depression often feels like a cyclic condition that worsens over time. It leaves you feeling trapped, helpless, and unsure of what to do. No miracle will happen unless you take action, and no one will come to rescue you unless you ask for help.

2. Practice Self-Love and Self-Respect

One of the most valuable lessons I learned was this: “Nobody is going to love or respect you if you don’t love and respect yourself.”

It may seem obvious, but it’s a difficult truth to live by. Self-love is the foundation of happiness. Without it, you cannot truly connect with others or experience joy. Meeting new people often leads to judgment, whether from them or from yourself. But happy people attract other happy people — and self-love is the key to that attraction.

3. Overcome Learned Helplessness

Learned helplessness is when you believe that no matter what you do, you cannot change your situation. It’s a common response to depression, and it’s something I experienced deeply.

As children, we rely on others for love and protection, which gives us a sense of security. However, as we grow older, it’s important to learn to provide that same love and security for ourselves. We need to stop seeking strength from external sources and start taking charge of our own lives.

The Dog Experiment: A Lesson in Learned Helplessness

Psychologist Martin Seligman conducted a famous experiment on dogs to understand learned helplessness. When dogs were exposed to inescapable shocks, they eventually stopped trying to escape — even when escape was possible. The lesson here is that we need to re-train ourselves to overcome feelings of helplessness by taking small, actionable steps toward change.

Forgive Yourself and Others

Forgiveness is essential for healing. “Forgive others, and most importantly, forgive yourself.” This can be challenging, especially when you feel weighed down by guilt or regret. But releasing these burdens is key to moving forward.

There are three types of people:

1. Those who forgive themselves but not others — their constant companion is ego.
2. Those who forgive others but not themselves — they are humble but burdened by worry.
3. Those who forgive neither themselves nor others — they carry the weight of sadness and anger.

Be the fourth type: Forgive everyone, including yourself, and move on. These are the people who find true happiness because they let go of resentment and choose peace.

Choose Happiness and Forgiveness

At the beginning of this article, I mentioned that we are often drawn to happy people. That’s because happy people forgive easily — both themselves and others. Deep down, we all seek easy forgiveness, and it’s one of the keys to living a fulfilling life.

I hope these three steps — letting go of blame, practicing self-love, and overcoming learned helplessness — help you as much as they helped me. If this article resonated with you, feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.

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